Another excerpt from "How One of you can bring the two of your together" regarding detachment that I want to remind myself of.
[Pg 41] "When I was single I spent several weeks each year at Tassajara, a remote mountain Zen Buddhist monastery, whi the monks and students operate as a resort during the summer months. The natural hot springs there have made it a tourist destination since the 1870s and some of the gorgeous old stone buildings date from that time. One summer, I drove the rickety gravel road fourteen miles in from civilisation, parked, walked the main buildings and the suddenly stopped in great shock. The main building was gone! A mere shell of it was still standing.