Your role in a relationship (exercise)

Here’s a cool exercise in “How One of you can bring the two of your together”

Complete this sentence in as many ways as seem appropriate.

In our relationship, I (use either expect, want,  or hope for, whichever seems more appropriate for your sentence)

Here are some examples

  • In our relationship, I want John to be as affectionate and attentive and thoughtful as he was when we were courting
  • In our relationship, I want us to agree much more on how to treat the children
  • In our relationship, I want Sam to spend more time at home and take more interest  in running the household and taking care of the kids

Now go back to each sentence and add to the end of it. “…and I feel _____ about it. “Or if you feel like taking a little bit of a leap, say instead , “..and I choose to feel ____ about it”. For example

  • In our relationship, I want John to be as affectionate and attentive and thoughtful as he was when we were courting, and I choose to feel disappointed about it.
  • In our relationship, I expect Sally to bring in her share of the income and I choose to feel angry about it

To complete the process of identifying your half of the script in your relationship, all you have to do is add the words “My role in the relationship is to” to the beginning of each of your sentences. Also in the second half, change “I” to “to”, so the sentences will now read:

  • My role in our relationship is to want John to be as affectionate and attentive and thoughtful as he was when we were courting and to feel disappointed about it.
  • My role in our relationship is to want John to take more interest in me and my business and to feel sad about it

Quite an awesome wee exercise to potentially open your eyes to things you may not have realised.

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